“Never Loan a Man Money or Let Him Drive Your Car” – Minister Yahdan Yada Tells Women

Popular social media influencer Minister Yahdan Yada has sparked conversation online with a bold message to women, urging them to raise their standards when it comes to relationships. In a Facebook post shared on Sunday, May 25, Yada advised women against loaning money to men or allowing them to use their vehicles, arguing that true masculinity is rooted in provision and responsibility.

“A man who’s comfortable asking a woman for help while bringing nothing to the table isn’t a man. He’s a liability,” Yada wrote. He warned that acts of generosity and compassion are often misinterpreted by some men as entitlement, ultimately leading to a lack of respect and contribution in the relationship.

Yada cautioned that once a woman begins offering financial or material support, it may open the door for the man to start viewing that support as something he’s owed. “He’ll confuse your compassion for convenience. He’ll start calling your strength his safety net—while offering you nothing but excuses,” he stated.

Encouraging women to uphold their boundaries, he declared, “You are sacred. You are not a rehab center for men who refuse to grow up. You are not a sponsor. You are not his ride, his shelter, or his backup plan.”

According to Yada, real men build, protect, and provide—they don’t drain the women in their lives or rely on them while contributing nothing. “They don’t live off you. They don’t watch you struggle while they sit back and ‘figure it out,’” he said.

He urged women to demand more from their partners, saying, “Make it harder. Make him rise to your standard, not drain you until you lower it. Protect your peace. Know your worth. Stop playing wife to men who haven’t earned your presence.”

Yada concluded his message with a firm declaration: “If your fathers didn’t teach you, I am. NDBA—No Dusty Bums Allowed!”