Sola Kuti and Lola Fafowora met about 32 years ago in Lagos Nigeria. After a year of getting to know each other, they actually began dating on Babasola’s 20th birthday in 1990.
They got married in London on the 8th of April 1996, were blessed with 3 children (A boy and 2 girls) now aged 24, 19 and 16.
After a long separation and divorce, the couple eventually reconciled in 2017 and renewed their vows on April 8th 2021. Exactly 25 years after they first got married.
The intimate ceremony was witnessed by their 3 children and some family members also joined on zoom due to covid restrictions.
They were also joined by the best man at their first wedding in 1996, Folarin Agbede and Chief Bridesmaid Kemi Kalejaiye-Mason.
Both whom have had been the couples best friends for over 30 years and have remained in their lives throughout the years.
This relationship is a true test of love and faith in God. It could only have been God’s Love that brought them back together after so many years apart.
Lola said, “I feel grateful to see God’s grace. It did not seem likely or possible, but I believe someone up there was fighting for our marriage”.
Sola on his own said “After more than 10 years of separation and even a divorce, against all odds we found ourselves together again.”
The story of Sola and Lola’s reconciliation reinforces the fact that with Love, Impossible is nothing.
If you had asked either of us during the time we were separated if we would ever get back together, we would have laughed, said Sola.
We hardly spoke. Interestingly there was never any personal animosity and most people who knew me well always said we would get back together. I always laughed at them. One of them was my flatmate in Abuja Tunji Adenuga..many people who knew me always wished it for us but it was hard at the time to see how it would happen.
My mum’s sister, Mrs Morakinyo who was one of the few who kept in touch with both of us on an almost weekly basis was always urging us to communicate. We always ignored her. When we compared notes recently, we discovered that she always ended her phones calls with either of us the same way. Saying “God will bring two of you back together.”
Funniest part is that we would both laugh it off.
Reconciliation is only possible when a relationship has not been totally destroyed. Even when it has been battered and bruised, there is always hope if the two parties are able to give it another chance choosing to do things differently. Unfortunately not every relationship is repairable. But I believe many are if people actually listen more to each other rather than speak or project themselves only to be heard Sola says.
